A Process Changing Relationships Around the World
Safe Conversations® combines relationship education and brain science into a step-by-step dialogue process that creates safety so people can connect.
It's a way of interacting that empowers you to:
Talk Without Criticism
Listen Without Judgment
Connect Beyond Differences
Safe Conversations® empowers you to talk without criticism, listen without judgment, and connect beyond differences.
Relationship skills can be taught.
It's not natural to slow down and take steps to understand another person. These skills can be taught, and we can train our brains to experience a sense of belonging like never before. Safe Conversations teaches you how.


Objection to difference is the source of conflict.
Top relationship experts Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph.D., began by asking, "Why do couples fight?" What they discovered led them to develop a simple process of taking turns talking and listening in a structured way that creates safety in relationships. They found it works in ANY relationship, and they began teaching workshops to share the life-changing process.
Who is Safe Conversations For?
Couples
A joy-filled relationship is possible. Safe Conversations helps couples talk about difficult topics, embrace each other's differences, and connect like never before.
Families
Parents and kids are often on different wavelengths, whether the kids are children or grown. Safe Conversations helps each side understand the other.
Businesses
A positive work environment where coworkers respect each others is crucial. Safe Conversations boosts collaboration, morale, and therefore, the bottom line.
Experience It For Yourself
The best way to learn Safe Conversations is through a workshop.
would recommend to a friend
call it powerful and transformational
saw their relationships improve
said it was inspiring and life-changing
Why Learn Safe Conversations?
Improved
mental health
physical health
individual and family economics
workplace productivity
achievement and performance in school
Decreased
anxiety and depression
addictions such as alcohol and drug use
crime in communities
breakdown in the family
absenteeism in the workplace
What to Know About the Process
Backed by Science
Time-tested techniques informed by neuroscience and 40+ years of clinical therapy.
Structured for Safety
You're invited to take turns talking and listening. The power is in the fact that structure invites mutual respect and safety.
Creates Connection
When connecting happens, communicating is possible.
Practical Tools
We'll show you how to mirror, validate, and empathize in a way that empowers you in any situation.
For Any Age
Adults, teens, and kids can all use the process.
For Any Relationship
Romantic partners, parents/kids, friends, and colleagues have all experienced benefits.
Research Shows that Safe Conversations creates positive change in participants
Southern Methodist University Center on Research and Evaluation (SMU CORE) tracked participants from two Safe Conversations Workshops
Immediate Outcomes:
Decrease in participant anxiety and an increase in positive perceptions of current and future relationship happiness.
Six-Week Outcomes:
Decreases in general anxiety and parenting stress and increases in perceptions of family well-being and relationship happiness. Also, a statistically significant relationship was found between practicing Safe Conversations skills and communication techniques and better relationship functioning.
One-Year Outcomes
Decrease in trait anxiety was sustained at a statistically significant level. Positive change in increases in dyadic adjustment and perceptions of family functioning changes were also sustained, although not significantly, at least in part due to small sample size at one year.
Relationships are Better with Safe Conversations
“Recently, I was in a meeting at work where a lot of complaining was going on. The moment felt right, so I jumped in: “I’ve learned that underneath every complaint is a need that isn’t being met. Can we rephrase our complaints into needs?” Everyone was looking at me like “Wow, what a concept.” One person, and then another, went for it. Safe Conversations really changed the tone of the meeting.”
Dalia“The simple, straight-forward structure of Safe Conversations can truly be a life-changing platform for veterans and their families, especially for those returning from conflict and who suffer from PTSD. These veterans have often experienced terrible things in defending freedom and they struggle to communicate with their families, the work place, and society at large.”
Cary Clayborn“There’s not a day that goes by in my practice that I don’t use SC. For so many couples its a life-changer. They’ve never been taught how to communicate, and they don’t feel safe with each other.”
Dr. Bob Breen“Attending the Safe Conversations workshop is like cleaning the windows for the first time. You may think your view is great. In reality, you have no idea how much better it can be! Whether family, coworkers, patients, complete strangers, or even my five-year-old son, the Safe Conversations tools make a world of difference.”
Malie“This entire process has changed the way I approach not just my wife but how I approach others. I have been using these tools for about four months. It is life-changing. It is the only thing I have ever done that has helped me express myself.”
Dan